Lets talk eccentricity.
After 31 years of a semi-addled, semi-sane, semi-lost, semi-found path of existence, the days still are filled with drudgery but the heart and mind - more than ever - are on a madman's quest to live to the fullest - all of its eccentricities and peculiarities.
Maybe, turning 31 does this to you. Or maybe this is how I am built and wired. But I have become the sort of person who looks for authenticity and eccentricity in people. A weird process has been at work in my life. Being different from the norm invites contempt, scorn, wrath and pity from people. Any and everyone exercises their freedom of speech to give you psychiatric evaluation of your morbid affliction.
Here's why eccentricity is important.
Very few of us give ourselves the permission to be eccentric. Being eccentric means being different and unique and maybe peculiar and weird. Eccentricity is the bridge for many of us to our heart, to our inner child, to freedom from a world of inhibitions and mindless conforming. Sometimes, our heart might urge us to do something but our typical response is to shy away from it because we are so afraid of stepping out into the unknown and being someone strange and making a fool out of ourselves and being judged as a loony. Being eccentric means being able to risk it all without the need to fit in or please people.
An eccentric person thinks or behaves differently. Our dreams often require us to step away from the herd and the ways of the society and to come up with our own unique ideal, ideas and formula to win big. If we cant turn away from the noise of the world and aren't willing to move away from the 95% of the people, then we cant expect to be as successful and as evolved as the 5% of the population. We like to think of Steve Jobs, and other such visionaries as geniuses but if we look at the way he lived his life, we will know that he was eccentric and brilliant. Our dreams demand of us to be eccentric - as eccentric as the six year old you.
Being different is not a curse or a disease, and we should stop treating it as one. We should stop trying to make everyone an extension of ourselves because whats the point of that? Instead, why not, try to resurrect our own uniqueness, our own craziness, our own weirdness so we can live fully. Most people who have gone down in history - have been eccentric or have done things in an eccentric manner. Nobody lives like the way of majority and achieves the success that a tiny portion of the society achieves.
To me - eccentricity is sacred. Its the rite of passage to manhood. It means you survived the mass hypnosis and the rabid efforts of society to turn you into just another typical person. It requires strength and endurance to swim against the tide all by yourself. It means you preserved your integrity and your authenticity. And you have learned to defy and be cool with being different. You are doing things the way of the 5%.
Our eccentricities try to tell us a story about ourselves. It tries to lead us to our evolution. So lets just shut up and listen to our uniqueness instead of blindly listening to the world. Why not? When living in this world - we seem to be cruising in a perpetual flight or fight mode - where we fly away from our uniqueness and fight hard to retain society's way of life. Wear a red lipstick and pout if your eccentricity leads you to it but its not nearly as cool and radical to do it if you are simply doing it because everyone else is doing it.